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Immediately after becoming engaged you should personally tell the people in your life who are most important to you. This list would include your immediate family, especially your parents, and your closest friends. Remember once you tell one person of the engagement news tends to travel fast. If one relative tells another, this may make things easier for you but it may leave the relatives who found out secondhand feeling hurt or angry. A good way to ensure that you are the one telling those most important to you is by have a family dinner. You may need to hold 2 or 3 small get together to tell who’s most important in your lives before sending out a general announcement. The dinners or get together should be within one week of the engagement. Try to schedule these parties as close together as possible so no one tells anyone before you can. If the bride and grooms families are not currently on good terms it may be advisable to hold two separate dinners. If the two families have not met yet or are not on good terms the dinners should be separate. If they have not met you should try to have a get together for the two families soon afterwards, at least one with the two of you and the parents. Throwing separate dinners or even one big party at once will ensure that everyone hears the happy news from you. This way you can let the people closest to you know before the announcement goes out. Also, if there are any children from previous relationships they should be told first. This should know before the dinner. You should encourage them to talk about how this makes them feel and help them deal with any transition problems that there may be. They should be told immediately after the acceptance and given a little time to adjust before the dinner party. Also let them know that you do not want them to tell anyone until after the immediate family is told at the party. . .

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Alyssa Kelly freelance writes for Our Perfect Wedding Guide, an online guide to everything you need to know about weddings from the engagement through the honeymoon. The website also offers a monthly newsletter which offers free up to date content delivered to your inbox. Ms. Kelly writes for this site as she believes in love and marriage and she believes in this website.
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